I am Jen, Jen I am

my journey towards happy and healthy healing…inside and out!

it hurts


weight gain

weight loss

healthy living


to not diet


no progress

will I know it when I get there?

what does it look like?


How do I get there?

what the fuck do I want?

what the fuck am I doing?

social media

That was a free-flow stream of conscious thing I found myself writing yesterday. I was in a meeting and my mind started to drift and I had a pen in my hand. I started to scribble and that turned to words . Then this list just appeared.

I have been floundering for a few weeks. At first, I tried to hide it. Then I just plainly hid myself. I posted when I went to WW and gained, again. Then I posted plans. Then that was IT!

I have done nothing since then!




I have not been to the gym. I have not taken walks around my neighborhood. I have not been stretching or icing. I have done nothing to make myself feel better.

I have been letting bad habits slide it.

Shortly after I last posted, I had a situation. An incident. I don’t really want to go into the details but I have already put a few things out there for the internetz to hear. My ex has surfaced, after about a 4 year silence but a 12 year absence, and made contact on facebook.

I hate to admit, but this situation really rattled me.  I was transported back in time to a time I would like to forget. One day, I may write more about this past of mine but this isn’t what today’s post is about. I was in an abusive relationship but I left that, I left him. I thought I had left all those insecure feelings behind me. Apparently not.

I have a lot going on in my head.

I am not in a great place.

I am not taking care of me the way I should.

I know what I need to be doing.

I know what will make me feel better.

But I can’t seem to do it.

What is wrong with me?

NOTHING is wrong with me!

I am just going through some stuff.

I am working through it.

But I can’t make myself feel worse while I work through my mental stuff.

I need to make better choices.

The not-better choices are making me feel worse, weak, and pathetic.

I have not been able to drag my ass to the gym, I feel so lost in my lifting plan.  So, I haven’t gone. I know this is making me feel worse. I just can’t seem to change it.

So, new plan: 

FEEL the feelings. Let them flow.

Feel the feelings but I can’t let them control and paralyze me.

Get my ass to the gym. Who cares what I am supposed to do, just get there and do SOMETHING!

Take some extra vitamins.

Track what I eat – even the not-so-good choices. I have been teetering between myfitnesspal and WW but I am going to stick with one. For now, I am going to stick with WW – my mom is paying for it and I don’t want to waste it plus the weekly meetings really do help. The support is the best!

Reach out to a friend, or blog, or whatever will make my head feel better. I cannot bottle up the feelings/emotions because they paralyze me.

So for now, my goals are on hold. I made May goals but I shouldn’t have. I suck at making and sticking to goals.  I am going to work on fixing the craziness going on in my head.  I will also call my doctor to get bloodwork done – it has been a while and I should know what is going on.  I am also contemplating a counselor – I have obvious issues with my ex that I didn’t know still existed.

I already work with many teenagers affected by domestic violence, abuse, and other terriblenesses. I want to help them. I have to help me first!


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6 thoughts on “it hurts

  1. {{HUGS}} Totally relate to this…all of it!

  2. Terri on said:

    I love you….

  3. {{{{Jen}}}} Depression is REAL! See someone about it?

  4. annsgonnablow on said:

    I’m sorry I haven’t been around lately. I’m so sorry you are going through this crap! Hugs!! Please text or call me if you need to vent or chat!

  5. Just know you are not alone. I know how you feel and have taken a break from blogging to sort out a few things. It happens to all of us when we least expect it. I’m doing the same things you are forcing myself to start my workout plan on Monday until it feels good again. Strengthen your body, strengthen your mind (read an inspirational book) and it will help you sort the rest. I’m here is you need a friend, {{{HUGS}}}

  6. Totally agree with you on the weekly WW meetings. As a teacher, we’re constantly reinforcing our students for positive behavior. I feel like I need some of that reinforcement on myself when I exhibit “good behavior” like eating healthy and going to the gym. Honestly, I don’t feel like I lack the knowledge of leading a healthier life. It’s that I lack the encouragement and support system. Glad I found WW (and also glad I stumbled upon your blog!!)

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